How does Mary and Margaret's responses to the death of their husbands differ in the story, The Wives of the Dead?

Hawthorne's story illustrates how a person's response to death and loss reveals true character. Both women mourn the loss of their husbands. However, Mary's "mild, quiet, yet not feeble character" and her faith enable her to endure the emotional torment of her husband's death with more equanimity than Margaret. She prepares a meal and sets the table soon after the mourners leave, and tries to help her sister-in-law calm down. Margaret, on the other hand, of a "lively and irritable temperament," cannot accept the loss and remains bitter, dwelling on the past and taking no comfort in her faith. Later, Mary drifts into sleep with relative ease, while Margaret stays awake "groan[ing] in bitterness." The motivation of each in not waking the other after hearing their respective news reflects their characters. Margaret is more worried about how Mary's response would diminish her own joy, saying to herself, "Shall I waken her, to feel her sorrow sharpened by my happiness?" Mary, on the other hand, is more concerned with the pain that Margaret would feel if Mary told her about Stephen's news. "My poor sister!" she thinks to herself as she looks at Margaret, "you will waken too soon from that happy dream."